Most people readily admit that healthy communication is an important part of any successful relationship, especially in happy marriages. But why are we so terrible at it? Here are some of the most common communication breakdowns in marriage and the one thing you can change to improve it. Sarah and Mike, married for five years,
If your marriage has felt more like an obstacle than an asset, it’s time to get to work. You don’t have to continue ineffective and potentially harmful cycles. If you want to know how to fix a relationship, you have to begin with understanding the enemy. As a Navy SEAL, Jason has spent countless hours
Most of us would say that communication is important in a marriage, but when we’re in the heat of the moment, most people find it hard to actually communicate well. Retired Navy SEAL Jason Redman and his wife Erica have learned to communicate through combat deployments, a life-threatening injury and recovery, business, alongside the regular
All marriages, even happy marriages, go through rough patches. But are your marital issues something you can overcome together or are you headed for catastrophe? Let’s look at three warning signs your marriage is in trouble and how to address them, so you can have an invincible marriage. As a Navy SEAL, Jason and his
Let’s look at three warning signs your marriage is in trouble and how to address them, so you can have an invincible marriage.
Jason Redman’s Monday Muster to start your week off right & crush those goals! This week we talk about problems and the reality of it all. Ever wondered, “Why do bad things keep happening to me?” YOU are the problem. But, here’s the good news. YOU are also the solution. We are living in a
Protection is about a mindset of offense and defense. We are living in a dangerous world. Protect you, your family, assets and money with a defensive mindset.
We are living in a world today where people want to be comfortable, but we should always challenge our beliefs especially if something makes us uncomfortable.
So many of us allow ourselves to be beat down by others and our own negative thoughts. Learn about the law of exposure and how to stop negative self-talk.
Most people think too big when it comes to feeling important. Being you is what makes you special. You are somebody. You only need these 3 things.
We have MAJOR short-term memory! Even with incredible successes, recency bias causes us to focus on the most recent, negative things that happen.
Learn to “Get off the X” faster by turning crisis to opportunity. You can choose to change your perspective today and make your way through hard times.
Doing things you don’t want to do builds mental and emotional leadership. Nothing builds an Overcome mindset more than pushing through the discomfort and rage.
In life, there are different storms we find ourselves in. We are attacked by storms no different than the weather. Some days it’s beautiful weather outside; other days, it’s cloudy and stormy. Our ability to drive forward through those storms is key. During these times, you need an anchor, something you can focus on.
We are building a world of quitters. The resilience needed to help us reach our full potential is lacking. Individuals have become so discouraged that they just give up when it’s time to work through situations that are difficult or uncomfortable. We’re failing at accomplishing our goals by taking the easy way out.
There is a massive lack of personal accountability in the world today. The constant beatdown from negativity of social and mainstream media, civil unrest, pandemic living and more tends to filter into our personal lives, allowing anxiety, stress, and depression to run rampant. When we carry feelings of low self-worth and esteem, it creates a lack of consistency and inability to follow through. However, personal accountability is the key to crushing your goals.
A sense of urgency is what propels an idea into an achievement. It is what inspires people to be
productive and to create. It is what motivates highly successful people who are focused on being their best selves, having the drive needed to believe in themselves and see their goals all the way through. Time is our most valuable commodity. Knowing this, we should do everything in our power to not waste it by adopting a sense of urgency.
Rollercoasters: I love them. Stepping off the new Jurassic World VelociCoaster recently, I felt strong, invigorated, as if I’d “conquered” something bigger than me, and eager to go again. Boarding an emotional roller coaster is an entirely different thing. We’re not necessarily wired, willing or braced for psychological whiplash. Stepping away from an emotional rollercoaster, we typically feel confused, undermined, destabilized, beaten up, and eager to mentally and/or physically quit. Great leaders are strong in Emotional Leadership. People follow them because they want to, not because they feel trapped. What kind of ride are you engineering?
When I talk about balance in life, I’m referring to an ongoing investment in strength and readiness across a broad enough base to keep me stable, grounded and positive through all the ups and downs of life. I build this stability by a reasonably equal distribution of focus and attention within all areas of what I refer to as the Pentagon of Peak Performance, one of which is Mental Leadership. The demands of leadership can be relentless. Great leaders are highly effective in part because they constantly flex their mental muscles in pursuit of knowledge, wisdom and intellectual growth.
Of all that transpired to save my life during and after that enemy ambush in 2007, only two had been within my control. One of them, according to the medical teams who put me back together, was my rock-solid physical fitness, which had prepared my body for its best chance at survival and healing through the extreme compound trauma. If Physical Leadership hasn’t already been a consistent focus for you, I recommend you make it your primary goal starting today. Start here …
Host Lewis Howes and I broke down some hot topics for business and life, including how small gains lead to big success, breaking the victim mentality, overcoming devastating circumstances and more on his top-ranked podcast, The School of Greatness. Listen now …
When asked about my involvement in Task Force Pineapple, a citizen-liaison network which successfully evacuated more than 800 Americans and Afghan allies during a one-week period between the fall of the Afghan government and military and the “official” exit of U.S. troops, I tell them this …
The sooner we each face it, the better: Much of life on Earth is beyond your control or mine. Only by embracing that fact can we fully realize the value in developing one of our greatest individual super-powers: self-control. Self-control is the key to effective self-leadership, and excellence in self-leadership is the key to overcoming the adversity, savoring the fruits, and even leading others in life. And it requires strength, balance and discipline …
How many times have you asked yourself, “What are you waiting for?” Often, the answer to that involves “perfect timing.” And that may sound rational in theory, but while you hang around waiting for a threat or unpleasantry to blow over, what other destructive forces may be undermining your mission? In the real world, the “perfect time” to take action is always the same …
One lucid hour in my hospital bed, I awoke to a somber yet critical reality: If I didn’t define my future and my plan, somebody else would. I understood my new mission: Get off X. Once you’ve identified your own path off X, plan your course of action and communicate it clearly to your support team.
If you’ve ever endured a life ambush, you understand the common effects: The mental-emotional tidal wave can present very real physical, biochemical and cognitive effects as the mind and body react by default mechanisms to the perpetual stress. If you’re in the midst or on the verge of this, hold on. You may not know any other way, but there is one. This article focuses on the REACT action step “A.”
If you feel overwhelmed, paralyzed or crushed by adversity, and you believe that you are trapped by your circumstances, you’re in what I call a life ambush. In any crisis, being well prepared to handle adversity will be the key to overcoming it.
As leaders in business, we must be able to assess a crisis and develop a plan to move safely through or away from that point of adversity as quickly as possible. The first step is to recognize your reality.
People are increasingly striving to cultivate resilience, balance and leadership in their personal and professional lives. They need to adapt quickly as leaders — especially through change and adversity. How do we best prepare ourselves to recognize and avoid what pitfalls we can and quickly and properly manage those we can’t?
A key component to building an increasingly relentless Overcome mindset — one of getting off the X, of pushing forward, overcoming perceived obstacles and moving the needle toward our short- and long-term goals — is the strength, balance and readiness that we create in what I call the Pentagon of Peak Performance. The Pentagon of Peak Performance pertains
Silence can be sweet. But suffering in silence is fertile ground for chaotic collisions of the mind and heart that crush the ambitions of good people every day. If you’re in crisis, you have more control than you realize. Here are five reasons and tips for not suffering in silence and overcoming adversity with the help of others.
Part I: Creating a Mission Statement the Pointman Way Generally speaking I’m not one for allowing our emotions to drive decisions or relying on uninformed plans. Their random, influenced nature leaves too much to chance and too much potential for unnecessary vulnerability and ultimate defeat. I’m all about research, situational awareness, strength and risk-mitigation balanced
You certainly have an excuse. In fact, you have as many as you want. We all do. Glenn Stearns is no different. He’s just choosy. And his success is a result of the choices he’s made to overcome adversity.
What’s a “bad day,” really? What does that look like? What does any of that really mean for you, right now? What does it mean for your mindset and for how you conduct the remainder of your day or evening?
In this interview with Jocko Willink on his “Jocko Podcast,” Jocko and I examined numerous critical points pertaining to life, war, leadership and the Overcome mindset in the face of profound danger and adversity. One lesson we discussed pertained to the decisions we make at different stages in life about who we want to be and the people we choose to identify and associate with either in support of, despite or in direct conflict with our visions and goals for ourselves in the present and the future.
I can’t sleep. My heart is racing. I can’t sit in public without my back to a wall. Large crowds make me anxious. I hate lines. Loud noises can make me jump. Trash in or on the side of the road makes me tense. These were my PTSD symptoms. The symptoms, stressors, triggers and anxiety
Ozzie Martinez, a marine combat veteran, struggled deeply with PTSD after two deployments to Iraq. In Ozzie’s inspirational story, he emphasizes not only the importance of a positive mindset, but how to use that mindset to pick yourself back up, even when you’ve hit rock bottom. His family fled communist Cuba before he was born,
There are currently over eight million adults who struggle with PTSD every year nationwide. According to the Department of Veterans Affairs, roughly 20 veterans a day commit suicide. Post traumatic stress disorder, commonly known as PTSD, is a clinically diagnosed psychiatric disorder that can occur in people who have experienced or witnessed a traumatic event.
By now you’re probably familiar with the concept of having a word of the day associated with our Overcome+Conquer Show, at least I hope you are (if you follow the show, and if you don’t well….. Get on it!). So, a few months back we had an episode where the word was resilience. And while
I usually start these out with the word of the day that we use on the show, and we’re going to get to that, but today, I’m just gonna dive right in. On the latest episode of the Overcome+Conquer Show, we had the absolute pleasure of talking to one of the most accomplished military members
We all deal with specific issues in our private lives. Stress, worry, negativity, they all creep in from time-to-time. Some are the result of traumatic events in our lives, but some, are the result of a chemical imbalance, which can lead to life ambushes we deal with daily. Now add the COVID-19 pandemic. Social distancing,
Relentless. Merriam-Webster says it’s, showing or promising no abatement of severity, intensity, strength, or pace. It’s a word often used when describing a ferocious animal in the wild. Which is why I chose the Honey Badger for our graphic. Many people think of a lion, or a bear when they think of this word, but
Every single day we wake up, we are met with new challenges. Things we may never have seen before. New life ambushes, or just scenarios that don’t fit into our plans. More traffic than we expected. Someone runs a stop sign, and now we have to deal with at best a fender-bender. Or worse. Like
Ever find yourself thinking about how things could have been different? Ever log onto social media, and see friends sharing about how great things are with their new car, new boat, on a trip or something, and you’re left feeling down about yourself, because you can’t afford those things? If so, know this; that’s normal.
It’s a constant theme with us, overcoming life’s ambushes. Sometimes though, overcoming isn’t enough. We have to conquer them too. This is why we call the podcast, Overcome+Conquer. I bring this up because a big part of overcoming and conquering the things life throws at us is learning how to not let the darkness become
Things go great sometimes. A lot of the time. But also, things go wrong. We will fail at times. What we do what that happens is what makes up our character. Are we going to blame our circumstances, or perspective roadblocks, or are we going to own our part in what happened? It’s easy to
Have you ever had one of those days where you’re up, you’re out to finish the task at hand, but, still just a little, uhm, bogged down? Like you’re there, you’re present in the moment, but it lacks meaning. It’s just another thing to do on a long list of stuff. That overall enthusiasm is
Resilience. Webster’s Dictionary says it’s “an ability to recover from or easily adjust to misfortune or change.” That brings on the secondary word for us to ponder: change. Change is going to happen. It can be for the better, or it can be something I often call a life ambush. Life’s bullets just come, and
Ever wake up, the sun is shining, the birds are chirping, coffee is perfect, no wrinkles in your clothes, and everything is just great? Me too. Ever wake up with the weight of the world on your shoulders, its grey outside, coffee isn’t working its magic and it seems you just can’t get anything right?
“Let’s be real for just a second. You have to be a lover of innocence, to be a warrior…” Those words were from Taya Kyle, wife of the late Chris Kyle. Known most notably by the story of his life embodied by the book and movie, American Sniper. Today, February 2nd, 2020, we want to
